Why, Hello Mr. Anger.

“Let’s not get personal”——-Unless what you say relates to me as a person it is just words without life. But let’s just “get personal” about each other, let’s get personal about ourselves.

Whether written or spoken, the more-deeply personal and the more uniquely applicable people’s thoughts are to their individual lives, the more I find that what they say has meaning for me. There is usually more meat for me in a writer’s journal.

Many people think they are acting the way they feel when they tell someone off. Someone is critical of me and I answer by calling him a S.O.B. My feeling is not that he is a S.O.B.  My feeling is that he has hurt me: “You have hurt my feelings and now I want to hurt yours.”

Launching a verbal attack covers my feelings of being hurt with an appearance of strength.  I get angry when I think someone has changed me in away that I am helpless to do anything about.

*screams*

Is there a healthy anger?

Mood: Angry
Location: Toilet

I’m Permanent

The Things We Take For Granted.

Most of us begin our days with a continuous list of things we need to do to keep our lives running smoothly, but we rarely take time to note all the things we don’t need to do. For example, we don’t need to figure out how to breathe. We don’t need to find a way to make sure the earth continues to revolve around the sun. We don’t need to concentrate to ensure that our heart beats and our cells regenerate. All of these things, and many more, take care of themselves without our having to think or do anything at all. This is the miracle of life on earth.

Beyond the wonder of the natural world, we have the wonder of human-created conditions such as indoor plumbing, electricity, automobiles, airplanes, telephones, and the Internet to name a few. Someone living just a hundred years ago would be overwhelmed by the ease with which we can communicate with people all over the world. Every day, millions of us jump on airplanes and fly to distant locations in a matter of hours. If we have access to a computer, we can read obscure information about any subject, free of charge, at any time of the day or night. And yet, it’s only when one of these miraculous inventions fails that we notice it at all.

When you wake up tomorrow, take time to notice how many things are running smoothly, how many small miracles compose your day. If you wear glasses or contact lenses, as you put them on, take a moment to appreciate the fact that without them, you would be unable to see. Your life would be entirely different if someone hadn’t invented corrective lenses. As you take in your world, you might feel a moment of gratitude for the basic fact that, once again, the sun has risen to illuminate the abundant earth, and the earth’s gravitational field holds you and all that you hold dear in a tight, life-affirming embrace.

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Communicating with understanding.

My experience indicates that blunt honesty with my feelings gives me greater empathy with other people’s feelings. My feelings appear to be a truer register of another person’s feelings than my intellect. To better get at what is going on in him I sometimes ask myself not, “What is happening in him?” but “What do I feel is happening in him?” In order to see more clearly what he is feeling. I at times have to stop listening to what he is saying, and what I am thinking, and look inside myself. Then if I speak from this feeling within, and tell him what I understand him to be saying, he will usually set me straight if I have not got it right.

I must do these things in order to communicate: Become aware of you (discover you). Make you aware of me (uncover myself). Be ready to change during our conversation. And be willing to reveal my changes to you.

For communication to have meaning it must have life. It must transcend “you and me” and become “us.” If I truly want to communicate, I see in you a life that is not me and partake of it. And you see and partake of me. In a small way we then grow out of our old selves and become something new. To have this kind of sharing I cannot enter a conversation clutching myself. I must enter it with loose boundaries. I must give myself to the relationship, and be willing to be what grows out of it.

Acquaintance softens prejudice

Something within me will not let me rest with a bad opinion of another person. Dislike is for me unpleasant sensation. It distresses me to hear someone criticize another person and I feel uneasy when I join in. Hatred seems to be its own punishment, but something in me rejoices in a newfound appreciation. As an act of faith, as a response to something that feels very deep in me, I believe this about other human beings :
Regardless of their present mood (which I wish to respect) they want to be my friend. For no other reason than I am also human, they want to feel love for me and want me to feel love for them. Deep within them they want to be close to me and to all living things. This faith does not require that I do anything overt, it requires only that I not forget.

One thing has become quite clear: All aquaintances are passing. Therefore I want to make the most of every contact. I want to quickly get close to the people I meet because my experience has shown we won’t be together long.

People in cars passing by my car, people walking past me on a street, someone leaving a shop as I enter, Dad coming through the front door from work, neighbor getting his mail as I get mine, and with each one of these little brushings-against, these encounters big and small, I leave something behind. If I can feel what I pick up from them, certainly on some level they can feel my state also. What, then, is the trail behind me composed of? Does not this “gift to the world,” by it’s very enormity, outweigh all others?

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The Best Day Of My Life

Today, when I awoke, I suddenly realized that this is the best day of my life, ever!

There were times when I wondered if I would make it to today; but I did! And because I did I’m going to celebrate! Today, I’m going to celebrate what an unbelievable life I have had so far: the accomplishments, the many blessings, and, yes, even the hardships because they have served to make me stronger.

I will go through this day with my head held high, and a happy heart. I will marvel at God’s seemingly simple gifts: the morning dew, the sun, the clouds, the trees, the flowers, the birds.

Today, none of these miraculous creations will escape my notice. Today, I will share my excitement for life with other people. I’ll make someone smile. I’ll go out of my way to perform an unexpected act of kindness for someone I don’t even know. Today, I’ll give a sincere compliment to someone who seems down. I’ll tell a child how special he is, and I’ll tell someone I love just how deeply I care for her and how much she means to me.

Today is the day I quit worrying about what I don’t have and start being grateful for all the wonderful things God has already given me. I’ll remember that to worry is just a waste of time because my faith in God and his Divine Plan ensures everything will be just fine. And tonight, before I go to bed, I’ll go outside and Praise my eyes to the heavens. I will stand in awe at the beauty of the stars and the moon, and I will praise God for these magnificent treasures.

As the day ends and I lay my head down on my pillow, I will thank the Almighty for the best day of my life. And I will sleep the sleep of a contented child, excited with expectation because I know tomorrow is going to be the best day of my life, ever!

—-Author Unknown

Who, being love, is poor?

The Worthy Woman

What makes a woman a woman of worth?

Proverbs Chapter 31:10-31

10. A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

11.  Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

12. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

13. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.

14 .She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.

15. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.
The wife of a noble charcter

16. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.

18. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.

19. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.

21. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

A dissected heart.

Broken
Torn

Muted
Hollow…….Both?

Definitely Maybe……………

Slaughtered                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Violated

You said goodbye,  goodbye with no words.

I’m FROZEN

Darkness
“Pain”

I’m glad that you said everything I finally needed to hear. It pierced me like a thousand daggers. Until today I wasn’t able to let go of the hope that you could see me the way I saw you. Love goes wrong. Life goes on. Alliteration abounds. Notice how a cycle is round?

Damaged for sure, but not for good.

It’s heartbreaking that you didn’t want what I wanted to give. But please hold on to it. It was meant for you. Until I can stop mourning the loss of what could’ve been, I can’t appreciate it for what it was.

“Heartache”
“Headaches”

I caught a glimpse. It was lovely.

I hope you can learn to love yourself as much as you deserve to. As much as I do.  Maybe………….

………………maybe  then you’ll be able to embrace it when it comes to you from the outside. It doesn’t make life. It makes life sweeter.

Goodbye my lover
Goodbye my friend?
~.~|~.~

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime =]

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Halo: Beyonce